Since the day of our formation in 1992, ASP has campaigned only for the right of the child to be loved and nurtured by both parents wherever safe and reasonable.

Our Aim

To promote the child’s right to the love and nurture of both parents after separation or divorce and to encourage and support parents in the fulfilment of that right.

ASP is a registered charity which gives support and advice to fathers and mothers who are worried about the arrangements for contact or residence with their children after separation or divorce.

Most commonly, ASP’s advice surrounds issues central to Family Law such as: Parental Responsibility, Child Arrangement Orders, Parental Alienation Syndrome, The Children Act 1989 and other matters which arise in family courts.

ASP’s strength lies in the face-to-face support it offers to both members and non-members alike. For parents in other parts of the country who are unable to attend in person, we will do our best to help via email.

Who Do We Help?

We are here to help parents who have become, or are in danger of becoming, separated from their child/children for no good reason.

When parents separate or divorce the issue of when the children see each parent, or with whom they are to live, can all too often become a battleground. Fuelled by unresolved disagreements between the parents, arrangements for the innocent children are frequently used as a ‘blunt instrument’ to further parental ambitions.

This deplorable situation is made worse by the present state of Family Law in the UK, which remains essentially adversarial, and by the failure of many legal practitioners to place the best interests of the children above the interests of their respective clients.

The ensuing battles turn already difficult times for the children into tragedies as they risk losing the love and nurture of a parent.

The Association for Shared Parenting campaigns for an inquisitorial system whereby the parents are helped to understand and address the underlying root causes of the disputes. Once parents can regain a working relationship, they are better able to place the future of their children above their own feelings towards each other.

Useful Information

“An arrangement whereby children freely enjoy the love and nurture of both parents and their wider family following separation or divorce…it does mean that sufficient time is spent with each parent for the child to view each parent as a parent rather than an aunty or uncle.”

(ASP definition of Shared Parenting as adopted by CAFCASS in 2004)

It follows that a Shared Parenting arrangement does not necessarily mean a 50/50 split of time.

Our experience, gathered over 22 years of operations, shows that with the parental issues put to one side, a Shared Parenting arrangement works well and dramatically reduces the short and long term potentially damaging effects on the children of family breakdown.

CAFCASS publish a number of informative leaflets that can be read and downloaded here.